tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873176583084736685.post6619608409817097649..comments2021-03-01T16:45:18.442-07:00Comments on Between The Minds ~ The Beehive: I Just Don't Know...Beehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02389501651154868657noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873176583084736685.post-53669661221932456002010-04-17T04:00:39.955-07:002010-04-17T04:00:39.955-07:00Hello. My mother used to give me too much food and...Hello. My mother used to give me too much food and force me to sit at the table until it was all gone, or barely feed me at all. I didn't realize it was abuse until early adulthood. Now I think I overcompensate with my own children - making sure they like everything I cook, making special meals for them, etc....there's a middle ground in there somewhere....<br /><br />I think food is a comfort and a necessity. Lately I feel I'm finding the right balance. I know I can walk into the pantry or refrigerator and whip up a good, healthy meal. I make sure there is enough to bake at least a little cake or snack, and try to always have little snacks (pretzels, chips, crackers, etc.) on hand. Now that I am in control of the food (and that is the entire point of my mother using food against me) I feel more confident and the only food issues I have lately is trying not to eat the chocolate cake that stares at me all day while the kids are at school. <br /><br />When a person feels powerless they may try to use any little thing to garner some control. Food is a major control because we can't live without it, and the person who is controlling it is demonstrating that you cannot live without them, and they have the power of life and death over you. I'm sure the person abusing with food isn't putting that much thought into it, though.<br /><br />Well, I've rambled on long enough. That was a good question, though. It took me a while to understand my problems with food.<br /><br />Take care.<br /><br />LisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873176583084736685.post-54079194678899915242010-04-17T00:48:18.707-07:002010-04-17T00:48:18.707-07:00Tempy,
I also have a lot of food allergies as well...Tempy,<br />I also have a lot of food allergies as well... Sometimes I wonder if they are truly allergies or if food as become such a problem that I unknowingly make myself allergic to most foods. Having a session like that would be soooo interesting. I can't even imagine! Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />Ivory,<br />I am glad that I know it is an issue now. It's not fun at all but if I can work through it now then maybe I can have a more "normal" life later on. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />Vicki,<br />Thanks so much, it means a lot!<br /><br />LM,<br />I hope it didn't look bad... Usually my friends in my classes will tell me if I did a good job but this time they didn't say anything so I don't know what all happened. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br /><br />-BeeBeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02389501651154868657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873176583084736685.post-87906891560040461472010-04-16T00:15:52.032-07:002010-04-16T00:15:52.032-07:00Sorry things are so chaotic right now. I'll b...Sorry things are so chaotic right now. I'll bet your presentation didn't look as bad to others as it felt to you. Many times when I'm feeling switchy and off, I'm certain I'm not making sense but the people around me tell me I am. Hope you have a nice weekend!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873176583084736685.post-50404913293414663722010-04-15T21:19:03.618-07:002010-04-15T21:19:03.618-07:00Thinking of you Bee. All of yous and sending you ...Thinking of you Bee. All of yous and sending you my xoxoVICKI IN AZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04280804639839673447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873176583084736685.post-33427430605713639682010-04-15T06:18:59.544-07:002010-04-15T06:18:59.544-07:00Food seems to be many mothers' way of control....Food seems to be many mothers' way of control. I actually posted about it on my blog here: http://shadesofivory.blogspot.com/2009/11/food-used-to-hold-me-hostage.html <br /><br />I hope you can work thru it and not have to wait until you are my age. At least you know NOW there is an issue, I was clueless until I was about 35.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873176583084736685.post-83293896451313520562010-04-15T05:18:39.855-07:002010-04-15T05:18:39.855-07:00I have a lot of food issues and allergies and have...I have a lot of food issues and allergies and have been treated for my ED on and off since age 8. A lot of abuse centered around food but I have often struggled to figure out what the problem actually was. The first big breakthrough was when my old therapist and I decided to have a session where we both had a snack to eat. This was really helpful and really disasterous too. I was a mess for weeks after that session because of all the crap that came up, but we were starting to get the issues. Just my experience.Tempyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13727040330385645404noreply@blogger.com